Sex

I've recently started watching Sex and the City somewhat faithfully. It comes on the CW every night as I'm getting into bed, and I'm guilty of both renting a complete season and seeing the new movie. I'm fascinated by their fashion and friendships as well as their complete lack of respect for sex.

I'm openly a virgin. It's most definitely a choice, not an unfortunate lack of options or opportunities. I think relationships are hard enough by themselves. You're trying to get to know someone, feel comfortable with them, build a mutual trust-- why complicate things even more with sex? I've heard you've gotta test drive before you buy. But if all you've ever driven is a Ford and all you will ever drive is a Ford, you love driving a Ford. This isn't complicated...

So anyway, watching this show really got me thinking. I can't imagine how hard it is to be in a new, vulnerable relationship and worrying about sex on top of that. In one episode, Carrie and Mr. Big had been dating for a couple of months, sleeping together frequently, when they went three days without sex. She was freaking out, questioning the relationship, wondering what it meant. I have my fair share of freaking out during relationships, and it usually happens before I've even kissed the guy! In that moment, I just thought, "Wow, I can't imagine going through a break up and trying to get over a guy who I shared something that intimate with."

When I get married (one of these days), I won't have anything to compare with. I won't have to be figuring out a relationship and sex at the same time. I'll be in the most protected, safe relationship of my life.

Just a thought...